Toilet Training – (part 4)

Is the light at the end of the tunnel?! Quite possibly so after 3 very, very successful weeks.

As a prelude, part 1 of the adventure is found here, part 2 here and part 3 here

I remember starting this mini-series in a bit of despair really… Heidi knew what she needed to do, but also knew that she was only 2 and thought that it would be far too boring to do things easily!! However, we are getting there, rather quickly.

I managed a long weekend away to the North Yorks Coast without needing to change her once, and this included, for the first time, going without nappies in bed. So, have we finally cracked it and I can get rid of all the nappies and pull-ups that are floating around the house?

Logically, I would say yes. I haven’t changed a nappy in weeks (woohoo!) However, there are still times when there is reluctance to go, but she has never wet herself for me and she is happy to use public toilets and knows when she does and doesn’t want to go.

However, I am now the dad to a child and not a baby – and that is a weird feeling…

While it is seemingly long overdue, I know that a little bit of Heidi’s innocence is gone. She is no longer only having to think about being herself, she has to think about looking after herself as well. My little girl is growing up. Quickly.

So, what is the point of this blog post? Well, a little bit of self reflection on the journey we have been on (read back for the time she only wanted to stand up!) and also offer some reassuring words for others going through what I did go through…

I know it is a well worn saying, but it will happen in its own time. Heidi was at least 6 months behind her friends and naturally, I did worry and I wanted her to progress because you want your child do do the best in everything. However, you cannot force it. You can try and force them to go to the toilet, but if they don’t want to go, they don’t want to go!!

Would I have done anything different? I wouldn’t have worried as much, for sure, and I would have just gone with the flow. I never did the whole ‘staying in’ to train Heidi – perhaps I should have done. However, she found the whole thing slightly entertaining and her mischievous side took over at times! One thing that I would have done is run down my supplies of nappies and pull-ups! I have some artistic plans up my sleeve for those when the time is right!

 


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Toilet Training – (part 3)

This has turned into a fortnightly update on the potty training saga and it appears as though we have turned a corner!

Part 1 can be found here and part 2 can be found here.

So, somewhat remarkably, Heidi has been dry for the last week or so. Not quite sure how, and not quite so sure why, but it has happening! Heidi has been dry overnight for quite some time and now it is working during the day.

The main reason for this post is to talk about public toilets and how impractical they are for toilet training. Firstly, I think that it is pretty much awkward for everyone seeing a dad bringing his 2 year old daughter into the gents. For this reason I try to use the disabled toilets, although for most, you need a special key to get into them (quite rightly too…)

Secondly, the space in the cubicle is very much limited and trying to fit a toddler and an adult into that space is very difficult! Previously, Heidi was seemingly claustrophobic and thankfully, that has passed. However, practicalities remain and I end up leaving the door open, but crouching in front to make sure all is well…the glamorous side of parenting!

So Heidi has been out of day time pull ups for a week now and we went on our first test this weekend, going on a mini break with a 2 hour drive (to Filey for my UK based readers). All in all, it went very well. Going, we stopped off as planned for a quick snack and timed it well so it was very smooth and was pretty much perfect.

On the way back, we didn’t have a break planned, as I was hoping that she was going to have a nap, but I got the “I need a wee” call after 90 minutes. As a result, I pulled into a residential street and used the potty on the pavement! Classy, I know but I wasn’t exactly sure what else to do! Any ideas are gratefully received!

Having said that, given that it was our first big challenge without pull ups, things went really well. Looking back at the previous posts in this series, I realise how far we have gone and now I am wondering if I will ever need to buy nappies ever again…!!

To read the final part, check out the link here: Toilet Training – (part 4)


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Toilet Training (part 2)

So it has been a couple of weeks since the last update (found here) so it felt like an appropriate time to revisit and reflect…

Well, it is safe to say that progress is being made and it is also safe to say that it is slow going! There are times and days when it works perfectly, there are days when doesn’t happen … at all!! This weekend being a case in point, Saturday was a nightmare, part of it was Heidi having too much fun with her friends and subsequently not being “into” it.

However, a slight positive was when she was playing in a washing basket (as you do!) and realised that she had wet herself in there. The downside to this is that it is very difficult to clean the bottom of a 3ft high washing basket with holes in!

Sunday was a much, much better day, without a wet nappy all day. We were out and about in the morning and while she didn’t go while we were out, when we got back home, Heidi felt comfortable enough to go. She went a couple more times at home in the rest of the day although I am slightly concerned that she isn’t drinking enough because she doesn’t want to go to the toilet.

The “standing up” phase appears to have passed and using a small table to support her feet seems to have helped quite a lot. However, there are times when Heidi seems scared to go into the toilet, although this might be her way of saying that she doesn’t want to go.

Either which way, things are very much slow going, but things are slow going.  One thing is for sure, this is probably the hardest part of raising Heidi so far!!

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Toilet Training


So while I like/love writing about days out and exciting things like that, sometimes real life takes over, in this case, toilet training!

Toilet training has never been forced onto Heidi, she has taken her own pace to it all. In fact, the first time she used a potty was in public, when one of her friends went and she decided to copy.

That was 2 months ago and after being caught a bit behind, we started doing the right things and things have been up and down. The holiday to the South Coast (read here) put the breaks on before we could really get into the habits, and we have good days and bad days.

In fact, yesterday was a good day and she was dry throughout for the first time. Success!

However, within that was an occasion where she went stood up (yes!) and once where I had to bribe her to sit on the training seat with sweets!

Today has been a disaster with wetness throughout and the only way I would have got her to sit on the toilet was by forcibly restraining her on it! (I didn’t, by the way!)

As a result, I don’t know what to do. She is physically scared to go to the toilet at times, both at home and out but at times she is a happy little toddler who takes great pleasure in keeping herself dry.

I’m sure that it will get better and maybe part of this is me being impatient, as all of her peers have pretty much mastered it. However, any advice is much appreciated (either in comments or [email protected]) and I’m sure I’ll post an update in due course!

Update: I have written an update here


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